Stop fighting other people’s battles

A few years ago I was working with someone was very difficult to work to get on with. This person would come in and would not talk to anyone in the department and you know what I did? I did not speak to her either. I would say things like if she won’t speak to me I won’t speak to her either. The days were long, the performance in our department was poor, people did not like coming up to us because there was always something going on. She would go and tell other people about me and I would go and tell other people about her. This carried on until our manager was able to move her. She was moved to do something else I felt like I had won. It dawned on me the other day that I had won nothing, in fact I had lost that battle,…read more >

You will never be successful until you have the right team around you

He was one my first regular coaching clients, he walked into the coffee shop we usually meet in, he sat down and said “ I feel like giving up because my friends do not support my new dreams”. I was a little disappointed with this because I thought we had made a lot of progress the previous week. However i did not let the disappointment get the better of me so like a good coach I asked a few more questions. I asked him if his friends had set goals for the future and his response was no. I then asked him if he expected happy go lucky people to be supportive towards his dream? For the first time that day he looked in eyes and I could see a knew sparkle and he said “I need my dream team” When I made a decision to become a motivational speaker…read more >

If it is broken, fix it

A few days ago a new NEXT store opened near my house and I along with a lot of other people went along to see how the new store looks like. I picked a pair of trousers that i liked and went to try them on. As I got to the fitting rooms I looked at them and thought these trousers have been labelled wrong, so I tried them on just to confirm what I was thinking. I went back to the shop floor and I told a member of staff these trousers are not labelled right. I went to look at other trousers and as I was looking around, I realised that when I told the member of staff about the faulty labelling on the trousers they did not put them away but theyjust took them back where I got them from. I had to take them back and…read more >

Opportunities always hide themselves in your struggles

Five years ago I was having lunch with a few of my friends and one of our friends had just started a new job and it was not going well. He told us how his boss and all team were treating him. He spoke about how he was looking forward to starting a new job after working so hard at university but everything was falling apart now. We had never seen him that emotional, he put his head on the table and then of sudden….. Oh my goodness me! This is an opportunity he shouted. If only can improve my public speaking skills and presentation skills I can teach organizations how to treat employees better. Fast forward five years later, my friend has been training businesses across the world for the last three years, he is very successful and still has a long way to go. A lot of times…read more >

Lead The Whole Team

A few years ago a friend of mine who leads a team of eight was telling me about the best people he has in his team. He talked about these three people who work very hard and he told me that if needed anything done he knew that these three people will get it done. He went on to tell me that he doesn’t know what he would do if he did not have these three people. My grandfather always told me that if your team is not doing well as a leader you must first ask yourself what you are doing wrong. I asked my friend if he has sent the five members of his team on the training that his best performers have been on, he said no, I then asked him if he thinks he has given the five members of his team the chance to show…read more >

Surround yourself with people who lift you up

A lot of people laughed at me when I set a goal to go to University Just after failing my high school exams. The class I was in after failing my exams was filled with all the people who had not done well in their exams so as you can imagine having a goal like mine made me a laughing stock in our class. I tried to spend a bit time with people who had done well in their exams so that I can learn from them but all they did was ridicule me, Very quickly I realised that if I was going to turn my life around I had to do it on my own until I found people who were on my side. So for the rest of that year soldered on my own, had lunch on my own, went to school on my own, I studied on…read more >

Achieved your goal but still not Happy? Here is why

After finding out that I had failed my high school exams I set a goal to go to University. I thought that if I made it to university and graduated I would be very happy. The road to University was very difficult and the road to the graduation stage was even more difficult. I remember the day I found out that I had made to university; I was so overjoyed for like a day or two but very quickly that joy disappeared and I went back to feeling like I was not ready for the next challenge, I went through university with terrible anxiety and depression but the thought that I was going to be happy when get to the end of the journey kept me going. However, when the day of graduation arrived I felt absolutely nothing, everyone in my house was up and ready long before I even…read more >

When one door closes a new door will not open until you open it

It was October 2015 and I had just walked out of the job not knowing what the future held for me. I had just endured a miserable five weeks in my new job so I made a decision to walk out of the job. I had a mortgage to pay and a wedding to plan for so there was no time to feel sorry for myself. I knew I had to find a new job fairly quickly. I got into my house, printed my CV off and I was on the train to Bristol to a recruitment agency I had used a year earlier. I was sure they would be able to find me something on a temporary basis fairly quickly. I filled in all the forms that needed filling and a day later I had a call to go for an interview and a couple weeks later I was…read more >

Learning to be confident

Self-confidence is one thing I always struggled with as far as I can remember, having been picked on by my year one teacher and everyone in my class, self-confidence was to elude me for the next 18 years. A lot of people who have known me for years did not even realise that the simplest thing scared me, meeting knew people was one of the most scary thing for me because I always used to think people were always judging me. When I was in my third year of University, I realised that if I was to get the things I want in my life I had to become confident. I looked at the things that gave me real confidence, I realised that I was confident atsinging because I had been practicing everyday so i decided to do one new thing everyday that would give more confident. A few years…read more >

You will only get it right once you know how to do it right

It was January 2016, I had just started my third job in the space three months, a few months earlier I left a job that I did well in in order to work near home but the move did not work out. In September of the previous year I started a new job which was 10 minutes’ walk from my house which was ideal because my previous job was a 50 minute train journey plus a 20 minute walk to work. On the first Monday on September I reported to my new manager’s office and I just had this feeling that this was not going to work out. The weeks that followed were the worst weeks anyone can experience in work and after five weeks I made a decision to leave because my confidence was been eaten away everyday. I managed to get myself a temporary job almost immediately through…read more >